Comments on: When it’s not about what it’s about http://eileenvalazza.com/2010/02/when-its-not-about/ Love & Greens Sat, 18 Feb 2012 14:12:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Amber http://eileenvalazza.com/2010/02/when-its-not-about/#comment-540 Amber Fri, 26 Feb 2010 22:36:18 +0000 http://soulsleuthing.com/?p=2938#comment-540 I have never liked coffee. For a long time, I TRIED to like it. Eventually I decided to give that up, because it was clearly not necessary for me. I can drink something else when I go 'for coffee' with someone and I don't have to play along just to fit in. It's different than your story, obviously, but also the same. Why couldn't I just allow myself to not like it, and not need it? I'm not entirely sure why, but I was able to move on just the same, and I think that's what matters. (And I hope the trip is great.) .-= Amber´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.strocel.com/my-husbands-olympics/" rel="nofollow">My Husband’s Olympics</a> =-. I have never liked coffee. For a long time, I TRIED to like it. Eventually I decided to give that up, because it was clearly not necessary for me. I can drink something else when I go ‘for coffee’ with someone and I don’t have to play along just to fit in.

It’s different than your story, obviously, but also the same. Why couldn’t I just allow myself to not like it, and not need it? I’m not entirely sure why, but I was able to move on just the same, and I think that’s what matters.

(And I hope the trip is great.)
.-= Amber´s last blog ..My Husband’s Olympics =-.

]]> By: Josiane http://eileenvalazza.com/2010/02/when-its-not-about/#comment-539 Josiane Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:42:35 +0000 http://soulsleuthing.com/?p=2938#comment-539 An entry point to get at the stuff... that's a very very useful concept. Thank you for sharing this example. It will definitely help me keep in mind the entry point idea, and help me recognise when that's what's happening. As for needing to need something - that's a great insight! I can't quite articulate how or why, but I feel that somehow I can relate. .-= Josiane´s last blog ..<a href="http://kimianak.posterous.com/a-huge-shift-in-perspective" rel="nofollow">A (huge!) shift in perspective</a> =-. An entry point to get at the stuff… that’s a very very useful concept. Thank you for sharing this example. It will definitely help me keep in mind the entry point idea, and help me recognise when that’s what’s happening.

As for needing to need something – that’s a great insight! I can’t quite articulate how or why, but I feel that somehow I can relate.
.-= Josiane´s last blog ..A (huge!) shift in perspective =-.

]]> By: Wulfie http://eileenvalazza.com/2010/02/when-its-not-about/#comment-538 Wulfie Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:37:59 +0000 http://soulsleuthing.com/?p=2938#comment-538 Is this another way that holding the tension manifests? I'm learning about this from you. I'm glad you made it over the hump and all is working out now. On the coffee....I gave it up for over twenty years and went back to it a few weeks ago...bad choice. lol But it's soooo damned yummy. For me, it's really about having something warm and tasty to drink first thing in the morning which is when I'm writing down my dreams. Decaf Juan Valdez, new on the market here in Maine, is closest I've found to tasting like real coffee without the buzz. As an official wall bouncer all on my own, I don't need the additional rush. I wake up in high gear. lol If you find something good let me know. Yes, it might be about 1 and 2, but it might not. Sometimes it's about the pleasure principal. The one that goes. ohhhh nomnomnom Is this another way that holding the tension manifests? I’m learning about this from you. I’m glad you made it over the hump and all is working out now.

On the coffee….I gave it up for over twenty years and went back to it a few weeks ago…bad choice. lol But it’s soooo damned yummy. For me, it’s really about having something warm and tasty to drink first thing in the morning which is when I’m writing down my dreams. Decaf Juan Valdez, new on the market here in Maine, is closest I’ve found to tasting like real coffee without the buzz. As an official wall bouncer all on my own, I don’t need the additional rush. I wake up in high gear. lol If you find something good let me know.

Yes, it might be about 1 and 2, but it might not. Sometimes it’s about the pleasure principal. The one that goes. ohhhh nomnomnom

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